February 24, 2017
Hey ya'll it's me!
I love, love, LOVE blogs about vintage homemaking. I don't live the 50s housewife life myself—too attached to my jeans, t-shirts, biker boots, etc too much—but I understand the basic aspects of the lifestyle, such as the husband is head of the home, and that the wife is the home manager. I love my role in our family, and I am quite happy to hand the reins over to the Redneck and let him handle the 'heavy lifting' IE, working outside the home, finances, making final decisions based on input from both of us, etc.
And no, I don't feel that I CAN'T handle those things. I can, and have, worked outside my home. I can handle finances quite well, thank you, and I can do many other things that I have allowed the Redneck to handle.
Because I choose to be a wife, mother and homemaker. I enjoy those roles, and I want to be the best at them that I can be, so I choose to concentrate on those tasks. I don't want it all—I just want the BEST for me and my family.
Recently, the Redneck began a new work schedule that requires him to get up at 3 am. each weekday morning. I in turn, get up 30 minutes before him, to start his coffee, fix him breakfast, and pack his lunch. I wake him up with his coffee, then after he's had a cup of 'Redneck Plasma', he's alert enough for me to bring him his breakfast. I refill his cup and we discuss the day. He gets dressed and I fill his big thermal cup with more coffee, kiss him goodbye, wishing him a good day, and wave to him as he drives off.
I have been told by other women that,”He's a grown man, he can make his own coffee, fix his own breakfast, and pack his own lunch. There's no need for you to get up so early.”
They're right, about all of it. He can indeed do all those things, and I probably don't need to get up so early with him. However...
Since he DOES get up so early, works long hours, comes home at night, is faithful to me, cares for my son, pays all the bills, provides everything our family needs, allows me to stay at home with my adult son with special needs, and doesn't mind me doing things to make a little extra money here and there...
I kind of think that 30 minutes in the morning before he wakes up, and doing the few things he needs doing before he goes to work, are not a big sacrifice on my part. It's simply one way that I show him how much I respect him and appreciate all that he does.
And yes, I get to lay back down on the couch after he leaves and snooze a bit more until daylight, when it's time to get my son up, feed the animals, and start my regular work schedule. So...30 minutes out of all my day?
Nope, not a sacrifice people...it's just love.
© Evelyn Edgett 2017